How my Spiritual Practice supports me in Motherhood

As a mother, my spiritual practice has changed immensely since that glorious day in March 2024 when I reached into the cosmos, brought my son back with me and made the transition from maiden to mother in physical form.

I felt immensely ready for this change, and I have tackled every bit of this highly honourable role as confidently as one can. There has never been a moment where I have struggled with my son’s need for me and that I feel is a true mark of a woman’s readiness. If you can tend to your children with love, patience and care AND you love doing so, then you were likely very much ready to become a mom. If you feel that you can’t do that, it by no means at all signifies that you are not a good mother - but perhaps it is a sign that you yourself need a little more love, care and healing to be able to confidently wear the badge of Mother in your life.

Maybe you had a traumatic birth, maybe your own inner child is not quite healed from what they went through or maybe you had no idea what stood beyond the moment of birthing your baby in terms of the demands on you and your time, body, mind and heart. Whatever the case, if you feel in some way that tending to your child is challenging, annoying, disruptive or down-right difficult then it likely has nothing to do with your child and everything to do with yourself. If this is you, I hold you as strongly as I can in the embrace of a Mother’s love. Being a Mama is hard work, and if you haven’t found it easy, please know you are not alone.

I have found in my own experience as a teacher, a healer and a student of the spiritual and sacred healing arts over the last 16 years that a key component, that is so often overlooked, in becoming a embodied Mother is one’s personal connection to the God / the Creator.

In my time as a healer, I worked with many people who wanted to become Mothers but struggled immensely once their child arrived. Or people who really wanted to have children but found themselves running into all kinds of reasons to delay it like fears and worries. And even people who thought that being a Mother would be the greatest part of their life and they felt a deep sense of loss and pain once they became a Mom.

There are so many reasons we have these feelings, so please know what I’m sharing here is by no means a complete conversation. I speak on intuition, healing and connection to spirit… so, in that realm I can tell you that the Mother who has no faith, no strong inner guidance system and no real connection to her soul (who she is and what she has come here to do) is the mother who struggles most.

Kids have a way of shining a light on all the cracks in the foundation of your life…

Your relationship isn’t working well?

You haven’t healed your childhood trauma?

You are just going through the motions of life and fulfilling a societal checklist?

Your child will reveal to you all of these shadows-and more-that you have been avoiding.

In my own experience, having been a seeker of truth, love and power from a very young age, there was not much for me to face the realm of shadow work. The greatest things I’ve had to tidy up in my spiritual life have been boundaries and self-care. Two things that become very challenging once you have a child! Ha.

Boundaries are easy in theory, and I’ve taught about them for years, but I really got to practice my limits with my child. From the moment he was born and the one midwife I had never met was attempting to rush my process of birthing my placenta and then to the meetings of everyone who wanted to meet him… I’ve had a lot of practice.

What I’ve come to learn is simple—maintain the boundary at all cost and no one gets hurt in the process. I used to think that was easier said than done but now I know it’s easily done and there is no need to say it. I don’t have any time to waste on people pleasing anymore. No is no and move along.

The second piece, as I mentioned, has been self-care. This is where my spiritual practice has really changed. I don’t have unlimited time anymore to read, write, learn, journal, meditate, journey, and so on. I have about an hour a day (if I’m lucky) to pour into myself so I have to make it worthwhile.

I’ve completely left behind oracle cards, journaling, reading physical books (all audio now) and anything else that I can’t do lying down for naps or bedtime. I contact nap and co-sleep because that’s what feels right to me so it has to be more accessible for these changes in my lifestyle.

I’ve turned to more prayer, journeys lying in bed, one silent walk of intention a day (with Fox on my back) and constantly choosing to see God in my son and our surroundings. God is alive in everything, and my shift into motherhood has helped me see that more clearly.

One final way my spiritual practice has changed since becoming a Mama that is more related to my child is how much time I spend devoted to understanding, supporting and connecting with him. I do this in the way of being present with him. No phone, no distractions, just being with him in the moment. This gives me immense insight on him. He doesn’t talk yet but in this awareness I hear him loud and clear.

I also take the time to provide some energy clearing for him every night to reset his system. For anyone who is wondering, children are very quick to respond to energy so this only takes about 10-15 mins, which I am happy to give him. The density found in a child’s body is mostly physical tension with growing and frustrations with trying to do things and get into things they aren’t allowed to—most commonly for their safety. If he’s had a hard day or if we’ve been around a group of people, I will always be a bit more intentional with my intentions in doing this for him, just in case he took on too much.

When needed, I enjoy taking the time to journey to speak directly to my son’s spirit. Many people aren’t aware that this is possible, and I’m here to tell you it most definitely is. Sometimes when I have a lot of other things on my mind I will miss his cues for what is wrong and journeying to connect with him like this is always a valuable resource. He shares what he needs, what is bothering him and how I can best support him.

Another thing that is always present in my toolbox that I turn to as a mother is my child’s astrology and human design chart. Sweet Fox has some very intense energy in action, sensitivity and requiring more from us in terms of depth of exploring life. He’s a deep, heartfelt and sweet kid who already has his parent’s intensity. He might be a Pisces sun (often very airy, sensitive and all over the place!), but he’s got a big energy to him that we adore and attempt to nurture. In HD he is (thankfully) a projector. I’m grateful for this as he enjoys downtime and I don’t think I could have handled a Mani-Gen or Generator for my first born… LOL.

I look to his charts to remind me of the kind of child he is and also to his transits to see what is happening within him. It gives me perspective when he has hard days and also when I do too.

I will say too… A lot of the time my spiritual practice is not routine at all. It is completed in the nooks and crannies of my life. During nap time, bed time, 5 mins here or there, in 30 mins while Daddy watches him, in the car when he’s fallen asleep and I can sit in silent conversation with God or even multitasking when I’m knitting and asking God for guidance on my next steps.

As a Mama, I have allowed my practice to change as it has needed to and I think it’s so important to acknowledge that it’ll never be the same again for anyone who becomes a parent because your entire life is now shared with the tiny human that you brought to this earth and what a pleasure that is. It’s good that it has to change and that you have to. I hope we can all remember that.

Let’s remember to pause, give ourselves grace and know that 5 mins of awareness is still 5 mins of awareness. You might crave more, and that will come, but those 5 mins are precious and we should enjoy them all the same.

Blessings from my Mama heart,

Em